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Boss lady. That’s who they know you as. You have a soul-centered, revolutionary business that’s changing the world. You’ve fought and won countless battles against the stereotypes, the nay-sayers, and especially your own dark demons.

And now you’re ready to become an authority in your industry.

And that means setting yourself apart by changing the way you speak about yourself. There is something about you that makes you different from anyone else doing what you do – from anyone else who has ever existed, for that matter. It’s about time you let go of the message everyone else is using and find your own voice.

Discover what makes you stand out.
Attract your dream clients and customers.
Make the money and impact you were born to make.
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The Best Friend Approach to Writing Copy that Inspires Action

What happens when you really know someone? Like the way you know your best friend?

Well, you know what inspires them. You know what they look forward to each day, what they dread each day. You know what they despise. And you know what they’re fed up with. Maybe you know a little bit too much about them. Either way, because you know all of that, you know how to talk to them.

And doesn’t that come in handy when they make a dumb life choice and you’re there to save the day? (Seriously though, what would your best friend do without you?)

That’s how well you should know your audience. In fact, you should get so specific that you’re thinking of only ONE person: Your Dream Client AKA Your Best Friend Client.

Now, there’s a huge misconception that copywriting is about manipulation and deceit. And it can be, like any great power, depending on who’s using it. But if you’re using it the right way, it’s simply talking to your best friend and inspiring them to take action on something that’s going to benefit them. We do it all the time. (Who else is going to save your best friend from that crazypants guy who won’t stop trying to tear her down. Jerkfaces.)

And that’s what copywriting does too.

That’s essentially the science of copywriting. Once you’re curious about people, figuring out what motivates them and trying to understand why they do certain things, you can inspire them to take action on something they already believe in and something that will get them to their goals faster.

Introducing The Best Friend Approach: Are you two compatible? Or frenemies waiting to happen?

What does it take to inspire action from your audience? Best friends know how to communicate with each other. Why? Because they know each other so well. Copywriting is that same balance between knowing who you are and knowing exactly who you’re talking to.

If two people aren’t compatible, the relationship will never work. You have to know who you are before you can ever discover your true best friend OR who your dream client is. And just like in life, the only way to find out that is to come up with a good idea and test it out. Keep testing it out until you find the right person for you.

Here’s how to do it:

Step 1: Define Yourself Before Somebody Else Does

You cannot connect to ANYONE if you have nothing to connect with. And if you pretend to be someone you’re not, you connect with the wrong people and wind up with wasted time, effort, and money. The first step in build a strong, lasting relationship is knowing your who you are.

When you know who you are, you don’t let anyone else define you. In fact, you prevent them from giving you any absolute definition because now you control the narrative. As a Muslim, I know how much it sucks to not be able to control the narrative of who I am in the country I was born and raised in. People paint a picture of who I am and even though we resist that image, the voices on that side seems to be louder and draws the most attention.

When I work with my clients, I delve into their story to help them figure out what they truly stand for. For me, it’s all about your story. You are a manifestation of what you stand for – one way or another. Know it intimately and you’ll unlock who you are, what value you bring, and how it differentiates you from the crowd.

My free mini-workbook, The Revolution Statement: My #1 Secret to Standing Out, helps you start this process of knowing who you are.

Step 2: Get to Know Your Best Friend

Now that you know who you are, you can now connect with someone on a real and authentic level. You’ll have a strong idea of where to start off from. It just comes down to asking the right questions. Who are they? How old are they? What’s their lifestyle life? What do they believe in? Is all of this compatable with who I am?

Once you map out a picture that allows you to see this person in 3-D (and NOT just in terms of your business), you can see them as a whole, real person, instead of someone who pays you and that’s it.

Once you know someone at that level, you can finally talk to them in a way that inspires action.

With this “Best Friend” client in mind, you can get into their heads and write copy that makes them believe that you know them so well that you’re practically reading their minds. You know how to make it about them, instead of making it about you. You know how to ignite a feeling in their heart and make them want to make a bigger move in life.


Copywriting is all about this kind of relationship. How are you going to improve your relationship with your “Best Friend” client? Let me know in the comments!

 

“I already know how to be grateful…” (the cheesy – but not really – Thanksgiving post)

This is a screenshot of my actual phone.

This is a screenshot of my actual phone.

I’ve been a victim of the “I know (but don’t actually do)” conundrum for longer than I’ll EVER care to admit. You know, when you know exactly what to do to feel better, get motivated, or take action, BUT YOU DON’T DO DIDDLY SQUAT. Let’s just say it was a war of sweat and tears – and stress pimples. Uww wee, not pretty. At all.

One of those epic battles of the self was with gratitude. (Oh what, it’s Thanksgiving? My timing ROCKS!)

I was told many times, by many people, of varying degrees of awesome, that by simply listing a few things you’re grateful for each day, you can become more positive, motivated, and driven. It’s a habit that changes the course of your whole life. Some of the most successful people in the world do it – daily.

But me, oh yeah, I knew better than Oprah.

[Flashback]

*Rolls my eyes* “Oh my god… I know how to be grateful. This is kind of… I can just skip this part.”

Present self: “Why did you love making everything harder for yourself?! Like seriously, I can’t, I can’t even right now.”

Because guess what happens when you skip that gratitude exercise? Your overwhelm of wanting more BURNS YOU OUT like a thousand matchsticks on your skin – that’s already dosed in oil. At least, that’s how it feels like on the inside if you let it fester. Pretty intense? Yeah, living a life of anti-gratitude does that to you.

When my skull finally stopped being thick, I tried it out. Here’s what happens: You gently catch the wave and rush into a feeling of weightlessness. It starts with your shoulders dropping. Then, it glimmers in your heart and sizzles through the rest of your body until you feel like you’re glowing. Whatever you were worrying about before, it doesn’t matter. Because you have so much right now.

If you don’t get that whole experience right now, hopefully you will one day (probably with the flashback\present-self conversation to boot. Don’t say I didn’t warn you. ;)

I completely believe that one of the secrets to being happy is wanting what you already have. That’s why having a daily gratitude habit is so important. For me, I thank God for 10 specific things I am grateful for every day. If I do it 60-90% of the time, I’m a happy lamb.

Now, I’m supposed to say, “Gratitude shouldn’t be just for Thanksgiving, but for every day.” But I think you get the picture.

Let me know in the comments how you’re going to implement your gratitude habit. Are you going to mentally list, journal, talk to God, or chisel it in stone? Hey, I’m down with whatever if it helps you out.

Build a Customizable Website for Your Business in Just 7 Days FREE!

It was everywhere I looked online. Entrepreneurs struggling with adding plugins onto their site, messing up their opt-ins, and not being able to create a page that they actually liked. Guess what they’d do? They’d wait days, WEEKS, to get the problem fixed. They pushed their business plans – and ultimately their life dreams – back by DAYS and WEEKS! WHY? GOD, no one should have to be that stuck – ever.

I used to always skim over these types of posts, but then it hit me one day. I had the answer to their questions. I mean, it’s not the exact, specific answer to that question, say, about, html and css issues, but I had a true solution to their problem. Something I have helped people do over and over again: creating a simple, easy-to-use, customizable site.

I knew I needed to share this knowledge after getting asked over and over again to help create a website by my sister, my brothers, my friends, and organizations I’m a part of. And I realized something. The knowledge I had was so simple, so easy, and so powerful. I had to share it. If I didn’t share, I would be keeping that power and control to myself. I don’t want that.

Well, today’s the day I share it.

If you’re in the beginning stages of your business and you’ve noticed you’re putting your plans on hold because of your website situation. I have ONE thing to say to you:

You only need to know enough to be dangerous with your website.

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2. Exactly how to set them up.
3. How to customize your website so it’s YOUR style.
4. The basic strategy to get clients and customers from your site.

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Take Control of Your Website Like a BEAST! (My FIRST course is coming!)

Getting curious is really how I started my journey into the online world and eventually into entrepreneurship. It started with art. I saw a lot of people creating beautiful art online (two of my all-time favorites: AquaSixio and Viet-My). I wanted to create those feelings they inspired in me for others too. DeviantArt became my home. And those artists really inspired me to tackle a few things I really needed later on in my journey. All because I got really, really curious.

I figured out how to download a photo editing software and use it. Back then, it was called GIMP. I’m not sure if they’re even still around anymore. The software was basically a free version of photoshop. I used it for a couple years and created a few graphics, designs, and photo manipulations that I posted up online.

From there, I went into web design.

I focused on creating websites and just tinkering with HTML and CSS. I learned some basic coding and knew my way around customizing websites. I didn’t know it at the time, but all of those experiences were preparing me for the path I took into entrepreneurship.

When I decided to become a copywriter, I didn’t have to wait around for other people to do the heavy lifting for me. I was able to create my own graphics, create my own website, and get the training I needed to start my business right away. I got my website domain, installed WordPress, set up a theme, and customized it like a beast – without breaking the bank. And that’s so important, especially in the beginning stages of your business, when resources are tight and you’re really trying to get your business off the ground without going into debt.

It’s something I take for granted now that I’m able to quickly go into my website and make changes whenever I want to. But I’ve started to notice how many people are struggling with things I mastered on my own as a teenager. I get the struggle. It would’ve been such a pain to have to find someone to make the smallest changes on my site. Thank god I didn’t have to go through that. I don’t want you to either. I want you to take control of your website. That’s why I‘m currently preparing to release a course VERY soon.

My FIRST course on building a beautiful website that converts is coming out VERY soon!

The course is all about how to create a website with little or no knowledge. We’re going to cover how to set up a website with the wordpress platform. We’re also going to get into the code without you freaking out. It’s going to give you so much power in your business. It’s also going to include all the little tricks and secret ways I’ve stumbled onto in the past 10 years from trial-and-error – so you don’t have to waste your time or money.

If you’re interested in signing up for this course, sign up below!

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This first time is going to be a beta run of the course. You can call this my official announcement.

Let me know in the comments what you really want to see from this course. And I’ll make some final tweaks to give you guys exactly what you need and make sure you guys are really happy with it.

10-Min Exercise: How to Stop Self-Sabotage in its Tracks

Maybe you’re at a place where you can’t focus, you’re putting too much pressure on yourself to succeed, to get more sales, to create this blog post, to create that course, to record yonder video.

It’s one of the scariest things to admit that you are limiting your own growth. And no one knows it better than an entrepreneur. We are constantly forced to do better and outperform ourselves. And sometimes, that pressure can WIN. But only if you let it.

If you find yourself panicking, freaking out, and self-sabotaging yourself, it might be because you’re trying to play BIG when your mind is still playing small. As soon as you cross the threshold into taking the next step, you retreat back behind the line.

You know what you want to do, you know what you need to do, but your body and mind is not letting you do it. It is like having 2 people inside of you fighting against each other. And that’s when mistakes happen, that’s when problems occur.

But all you have to do is change what your mind believes for long enough to complete the task. Doesn’t sound too hard, right? All that means is you need to believe you’re capable of what your mind might thinks “impossible” JUST long enough to DO that thing!

Here’s a Tool to Help You Stop Self-Sabotage in its Tracks:

What you want to do is grab a pen and paper. (Don’t use your computer, use PEN AND PAPER!)

Take a second and think: What is it that you truly want? There’s a goal that you want. Whatever that is, maybe it’s making $1000 a month, $2,000, $5000, or maybe 6-figures per year. So, think about what that is.

Now, I want you to write a little note (as if you’re writing to a good friend) and tell them about the life you’re living now that you’ve reached your goal. You’re used to the goal now – it’s your reality. Start with writing your goal in present tense. Ex. “I make $XXXX per month, easy.”

Answer these questions: What kind of life are you living? What does it mean to you? Write it out. What does that mean to your business? to your life? to your clients and customers? Where are you going on your weekends? What are you doing during your day? How many hours are you working? How are you attracting your clients? How easy is it for you to get clients or customers? What does it mean to be honoring the gift you have and gifting it to the world freely? Instead of restrained, instead of holding back? What does that all look like to you?

Keep this with you while your work. I recommend reading it aloud once a day before you begin working and anytime you feel the pressure of not being able to do what you want to do or if you feel resistance when creating, which might come up when you’re writing a blog post, creating a series, creating a training course, whatever it is.

Read it frequently, let it sink in, and that “desperation” of achieving something “too big for your mind” will be gone, instead you will have that feeling of “This is what I’m used to. I’m used to doing this. It’s not even a big deal. All I have to do is do it. End of story.

This helps you let go and work in a place of inspiration, instead of desperation.

Let me know if the comments if you tried this. Did it help? What change and feelings overcome you?

What Happens When A Woman Makes More Money Than a Man?

Farnoosh Taroubi

 

It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single woman in possession of a good fortune must have trouble finding a husband.

I’m a young Muslim woman of Pakistani descent. And the next few years are my “primetime” to get hitched. But there’s a huge problem I foresee:

I’m ambitious and I want to be really successful.

Wait – what? Not the problem you were expecting?

Yes – this is the reality all of us ladies face. Here’s the truth we all know too well: men are intimidated by women who are more successful, more ambitious, and earn more money than them.

It honestly scares to me think about how difficult it might be to find someone – because I have big-huge-empire-dream just wanting to come to fruition.

Do I really have to tone it down and minimize who I am just to make room for a guy?

When that fear settles in, the only thing I know how to do is avoid thinking about it. It’s not something I have control over. Or at least – I didn’t think I COULD take control over something it.

Until now – thanks to Farnoosh Tarboi – I CAN.

I’d like to introduce you to Farnoosh Tarboi. Farnoosh is a personal finance & lifestyle expert who has been dubbed “the next Suze Orman.” She’s helped millions of people manage their money on her #1 Yahoo! web series, Financially Fit.

Take the floor, ‘Noosh!

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This is a guest post by Farnoosh Torabi.

4 Ways to Step Into Your Feminine

As strong, successful women, it can be challenging to let our hair down, even in our own relationships.

I spent the better part of 2 years interviewing relationship coaches and psychologists for my upcoming book, When She Makes More: 10 Rules for Breadwinning Women. During that time, I realized just how misguided I’d been in my own dating life as I tried to find Mr. Right.

Like you, I’m someone who’s extremely passionate about my career. It was natural for me to share details of my ambition and drive on first dates. As someone who was also raised to stand on her own two feet, I felt that chivalrous acts – like letting him pay – sent the wrong signals.

Now I realize why those first dates rarely carried to a second.

It’s because I wasn’t exactly “stepping into my feminine,” and playing up the fact that, at the end of the day, I’m an alluring woman with charisma, charm and a love for things beyond just my career… and the person across the table ought to learn that. Because as a man, he’s attracted to that.

By emphasizing my femininity, I complement his masculinity.

Women sometimes equate being feminine with men to being weak. But it’s still important to claim the feminity. Men want to be men and are often worried about women turning away from that. It’s up to us to give them permission to follow their instincts.

This topic can be slightly controversial, but relationship experts tell me it’s essential for men and women to connect.

Men these days don’t know how to act around women. Couples coaches and therapists encounter men who feel insecure, or like failures because they feel like they “just can’t get it right.”

The women need to take the lead in letting them feel comfortable in treating us like ladies.

Chivalry is not dead.

There’s a way to maintain your self respect while still playing up your femininity.

Even as we throw gender roles up in the air, some of our instincts and expectations as men and women must be respected and nurtured, if for nothing else, to establish healthy and lasting relationships.

Consider these 4 simple and effective ways to play up your feminine power.

#1 Talk up your passions, not promotion.

You should be extremely proud of your professional success, but talking up your work accomplishments is not exactly the best first date material, says relationship guru Marni Battista. It can kill the potential for connecting on a personal level.

“We don’t want first date conversations to be about work. Then it’s a business meeting. You’re networking,” Battista says.

Of course, mention what you do, but steer the conversation towards a discussion about your passions and discuss specifically what it is about your career that’s meaningful to you.

When you talk about the personal part of your job, it’s a whole other conversation, says Battista. And one that’s sure to create more sparks.

Try saying this, instead: “One of the things I love about my job is I get to make an impact. I love what I do because I get to be on the forefront of change.”

Or, if asked what you do, turn it into a game at first and act coy. Start with this: “What do you think I do? Take a guess!”

No need to get down to business so fast on the first date. Leave the nitty gritty for next time, says Battista.

#2 Don’t Be Afraid of Chivalry.

His chivalrous acts (opening doors for you, offering his jacket when it’s cold outside) and letting him choose the restaurant or pick up the tab can be tough to accept when you’re an independent lady. It may seem like you’re “letting go of control,” being vulnerable and stepping backwards in time.

But these gender-driven gestures – no matter how antiquated – can benefit the relationship.

They help him feel more masculine and you, more feminine. And there’s absolutely nothing shameful about that.

In our relationships, it’s important to remember how biology and social conditioning shapes our expectations and instincts. Men generally feel the desire to be the “alpha” in order to feel attractive. Women, no matter how much money we make, still want to be “taken care of” in some capacity by their mate.

So, “step into your feminine,” as Battista coaches, and allow him to take the lead sometimes in social settings. It’s an easy way to respect each other’s instincts and grow closer.

#3 Ask for His Help…Even When You Don’t Really Need It.

As women, we’re exceptionally good at asking for help. We’re strong in that way.

In our relationships, though, we can sometimes forget to involve our partners and ask for his help.

Truth is, we can probably handle most things on our own, but when you’re in a partnership, asking for his help, even when you don’t quite need it, is another way to demonstrate respect.

As couples coach Kavita J. Patel explains, in order to feel deeply satisfied in their relationships, men want to make their women happy and provide for them in some way. So, take advantage of that!

He may not be taking care of you “financially” but what are some other ways – big and small – that he can provide? “Get vulnerable and let him in some way,” says Patel.

Together, it’s important to have this conversation and position the talk in such a way where you are clear that by him taking on these responsibilities or tasks, it’s a huge, huge help. That word has proven to be very powerful.

#4 Continue to find ways to play up your feminine.

Gender roles are very much up in the air right now. And that’s a good, progressive thing.

But it’s also good to have some comforting reminders of what you can do that’s exciting for both the woman and the man.

Take a look at how you operate on a daily basis, and have some fun finding the spots where you can play with your femininity.

For example, I’ll be the first to admit that I’m guilty of putting on sweatpants as soon as I get home. It’s to the point where my husband will jokingly say, “Sweatpants already?” But when I get dressed up to go out, he always tells me how nice I look. So, as comfortable as those sweatpants are, I could make more of an effort to bring the sexy back.

Farnoosh Torabi is the author of the forthcoming book, When She Makes More: 10 Rules for Breadwinning Women (May 2012, Hudson Street Press). If you want to thrive in your relationship (and in your career and motherhood) as the top-earner or as a money-savvy woman, then this book has the goods you need. Pre-order your copy here and earn some amazing gifts!

Do you agree that women need to embrace their femininity and let men “take care of them”? Let me know in the comments!

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