“Okay I failed, but I didn’t really try that hard.” I used to say that all the time. It was my moto for never achieving anything. I was a bums fo’ life kinda girl. Definitely not a shining moment in my life.
It’s what I said when I got a D in Chemistry in high school.
It’s what I said when I didn’t do my homework during that period either.
It’s what I said when I didn’t get into NHS the first time around.
It’s also the reason why I found myself disappointed in everything I did.
Because “okay I failed, but I didn’t really try that hard” doesn’t change or help anyone, especially you. Losers say it and I was a friggin’ loser. I was also an outcast in high school, but that’s a whole different story for another day.
You and I both know why you say it. Don’t get cheeky with me, I was there once. When you say “okay I failed, but I didn’t really try that hard” or “if I wanted to do it, I’d do it” what you’re really saying is I don’t want to invest my heart into this, fail, and be utterly ripped apart by devastation and embarrassment. So instead, you take the coward’s way out, you hold up those phrases as a shield to protect yourself, as I once did.
It’s sorta like failing on your own terms.
But the real truth to it is that once you commit you get so much power and energy out of that, that even if you fail, you dust yourself off and try again. Success will come over time, when you create a practice for yourself, dedicate yourself, and give it everything you got.
Amateurs say, “I failed, but I didn’t really try that hard.”
Professionals commit 100% and get superpowers. Their failures are setbacks that barely phase ’em.
What are you?
*This post is inspired by Steven Pressfield.